#15 Maintain High Standards
Apr 26th, 2008 by doing better
This is especially true in dating situations, when, in our loneliness and desperation, we may be tempted to neglect our priorities.
An acquaintance who has impeccable standards described a recent date:
“First he took me to an Italian restaurant. I hate Italian! Then he didn’t order for me. I told him what I wanted. He should have said, ‘The lady will have the chicken,’ but I had to order for myself! Can you believe it? Why should I have to say it twice? My father and my brother always order for me. Then we went to a comedy club, and it was so crowded I had to stand up for two hours in heels. I didn’t care if it was funny or not. Then he asked if I wanted to get a drink. He took me to a bar, and all his friends were there! He outed me on a first date. At the end of the evening, when I said I was going home, he asked if he should walk me to the cab. I said ‘No’ – and he said ‘OK’! Can you believe it? If there is ever a time when a woman says no and means yes, it is when she is walking alone at night! Obviously that date was going nowhere.”
I congratulated her for maintaining her high standards under pressure from uneducated elements of the male population. Where would we be if we started paying attention to personality and forgot our principles? We might end up with someone entirely unsuitable, just because he was a nice person.